#Black and white bondage gag gif professional#

“Consequently, kink can be a space of possibility and reclamation where fat folks, disabled folks, Black people, those whose bodies have been labeled deviant might go to find themselves desired, celebrated, and even worshipped for their defiant, glorious bodies. “I believe kink is an invitation to revel in difference, to celebrate and extol the virtues and pleasures of that which the mainstream has called ‘deviant,’” says author Sonya Renee Taylor. Here we saw Black people using sex and sexuality as a medium to create new realities and praxes, even for those of us at the furthest margins of society.īlack kink is about freedom and empowerment, but most of all, it’s about pleasure. Inside these Black kinky communities, we found Black people rejecting white dominant culture’s proscriptions on who was worthy of sexual pleasure, who could rule inside the bedroom, or what it meant to powerfully submit. In our communities of Black folks, kinky people were finding one another and creating enclaves of communal practice. More than two decades after first watching that Real Sex episode, conversations with other Black folks have made it clear that kinky sex is definitely not a “white thing.” Black people are (and have been) having kinky sex and exploring BDSM, and, like us, they were finding freedom in the process. Today, we know that the way we practice BDSM is inextricably connected to our politics and deep longing for Black freedom and autonomy. It took even longer to recognize that some of those desires were clear practices and tenets of a specific sexual power play known as BDSM (bondage, dominance, discipline, submission, sadism, and masochism). So even as we both began to explore our own sexual freedom, it would be many years before either of us understood that what we were into was, in fact, kink. In other words, at the same time that we learned about the possibilities of sex outside of societally accepted norms, we learned that those practices were, with few exceptions, for white people.

#Black and white bondage gag gif professional#

And, like most depictions of professional Dominants then and still, she was white. She was well-compensated for the work she was doing. One particularly impactful episode of Real Sex featured a Dominatrix. In the absence of cultural models or language that affirmed the possibility of sexual pleasure and autonomy for Black women, we both found that our sexual awakenings were informed by pop culture-whether through soft porn on Cinemax (better known as “Skin-e-max”), Showtime After Dark, or HBO’s Real Sex. Since chattel slavery, Black bodies-and especially Black women’s bodies-have been seen as a commodity to be used and manipulated for the benefit of others. The dominant, white supremacist, sexist society in the United States has long insisted that Black women’s and girls’ bodies and sexualities don’t belong to us. When you’re a fat Black woman, you’re made to feel like your body is an inconvenience and your sexuality is nonexistent.

Having ownership over your body and sexuality is extremely difficult when you are a girl or woman.